I grew up with some of the greatest parents a young lad could have. They taught me that I could do anything I set my mind to do. They taught me the valuable lesson of hard work, and of acting with honor and courage. They showed me how to be a man by making sacrifices for their children. I tell you about my parents because, even though I grew up with open-minded parents who encouraged me in whatever I did – no matter how audacious the endeavor – my greatest limitation in life is nothing but an illusion: the limiting beliefs I hold about what’s possible.
If you’ve read anything on this site before and if you’re signed up to the newsletter, you’ll know that I’m an ambitious guy who loves setting big, hairy, audacious goals, and I love doing the work to accomplish them. The point is, I don’t naturally think small; however, I’m still my greatest obstacle.
We all are.
The LegendaryBrotherhood we’re building here is filled with people who want to improve. By that notion alone, we’re above average in what we can think is possible simply because we’re moving forward and we’re looking to do what we’ve not yet done. There are a select few in this world who have the courage to break the chains that bind them and move from the vice-like grasp of their comfort zones. I’d like to think that every one of us here is in that group.
We’re big thinkers and hard workers, but we’re still thinking too small.
Everyday we’re thinking too small; far to small.
Our greatest dreams, those that get us excited to wake up in the morning and work, as well as the dreams that have us wanting to stay in bed all day so we can continue this life we’ve conjured up, are the things in life we should be leading towards, the trips we should be embarking on, and the missions we NEED TO BE setting out on if we’re going to give our lives with meaning – if we’re going to live. Read the rest of this entry »
Last night I watched Forrest Gump with my family. ‘Twas post-Christmas dinner, and even though it was 4:30 in the PM, I had to fight to stay awake. My belly protruding past my toes – or at least that’s how it felt - showing that my Mom had once again outdone herself in the meal that, more than anything my life, signifies the end of the year and ushers in a turkey-induced coma.
So we sat down on the couches… I grabbed the flicker, and went to work trying to find something we could watch, that would also rid my burning desire to change channels during commercials. I landed on Mr. Gump’s life story.
As the movie came to an end I thought aloud, I like how a guy who others pity for his lack of brain power can create a multi-million dollar company (Bubba Gump Shrimp), win the medal of honor, meet multiple Presidents, inspire hundreds, become an All-American in football, teach Elvis how to dance, and, most importantly, marry the girl of his dreams and raise his son in the home he grew up in.
Yes, it’s fiction, but there’s a lot to learn from this wonderful story.
Think only about what we need to think about.
One of the greatest gifts we have is the fact that we can control our thoughts. We can choose which thoughts we pay attention to, even which thoughts we have. Most of us, however, don’t use this gift for good; rather, we use it – often unconsciously – to our detriment. Read the rest of this entry »
There exists an ingredient that will bring a man success in anything he seeks. His only limitations are those he places upon himself – his imagination, his capacity to dream, his capability to work. It’s an ingredient needed to build six pack abs, to construct the body of an Adonis, or to make millions.
It’s an ingredient that each of us has the capacity to possess and to use. It’s a talent we’re born with, but also one we can cultivate. It’s a weapon that the 1% know, understand, and revere, while the 99% are afraid to wield. The 99% are too weak to use it. Those that obide by this law, this ingredient, must be strong. They may be insane, even irrational, but they possess courage. Those that fail to adhere to this principle may be more sane, they are also weaker, they are the pussy, the coward, the snitch.
Each of us has both within us. On some level we can all be a coward, and we can all be a warrior. But we can only be one, in the end. What we are will be determined not in a moment, but in the culmination of every moment in our lives. Our actions determine the man we are to be, and the success we will acheive.
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” ~ Calvin Coolidge
When I write about the successful, I’m not only talking about those successful in business – or in the eyes of societ – but the father who had the balls not to cheat on his wife, to be there for his kids, loving both every day, persistently. I’m talking about the mother who did everything for her kids to make sure they grew up to be good people.
I’m talking about the writer, the actor, the garbage man, the painter, the warrior who wasn’t just a warrior for a day, but every day of his or her life. Refusing to quit. Failing not to fail, but to crumble and quit after each failure presents itself in her life. Success isn’t an act, it’s a habit. If it were an act, lottery winners would be seen as successful, but they aren’t, they’re seen as someone with a horseshoe up their ass, nothing more. Read the rest of this entry »
“Study any person who is known to be a permanent success and you will find that he has a Definite Major Goal; he has a plan for the attainment of this goal; he devotes the major portion of his thoughts and his efforts to the attainment of this purpose.
My own major purpose is that of making and marketing steel. I conceived that purpose while working as a laborer. It became an obsession with me. I took it to bed with me at night, and I took it to work with me in the morning. My Definite Purpose became more than a mere wish; it became my Burning Desire! That is the only sort of definite purpose which seems to bring desired results.” Andrew Carnegie, from Think Your Way to Wealth by Napoleon Hill.
The Creation of an Obsession
I have a letter to myself that I wrote some time ago sitting next to me on my desk. It’s by me, and it’s written to yours truly. It was written at a time when my business was in its infancy, and I made the ballsy move of “burning my ships” – I cut out all other sources of income, which amounted to about 95% of all money I had coming in – in order to focus on my dream.
Yet, even though I had forced myself to sink or swim, at the time of this letter I was on the couch, eyes focused on the TV rather than on the myriad of tasks I had to complete by day’s end. All of a sudden, I had a thought, one that catapulted me to my desk to open my notebook and start writing…
“I’m sitting here on my couch, the bills piling up, the means to earn a living and create a dream within my reach and my control, yet I am lazy! I’d rather run errands, watch TV, or buy new clothes than work. What the fuck is that?! What kind of man is that?”
…I ran down a list of things I’d rather do than work, and ask a simple question: “Where does all of this get me?”
The answer is simple: nowhere.
As I read the letter that still sits next to me on my desk, I look at how I ended it; with a list of things that had to be done. A list that I would complete by 11 pm that night, then wake up at 5am the next day to get started once again on chopping down the tree that never seemed to fall, yet I promised to never stop chopping. Read the rest of this entry »
Michael Jordan was born to play basketball. Wayne Gretzky was born to be a great hockey player. Babe Ruth was blessed with the gift of hitting a baseball further then anyone else.
These are the cop-out statements that give the “genetically gifted” and talented a birthright for greatness. It’s also an easy way to explain the average man’s lack of genius and success.
They’re also completely bullshit. In this article we’ll look at how practice, not talent, is the reason for “genius” in any field. How by having one goal, and focusing on it and nothing else, “average” men and women acheive the status of the men above.
By focusing on one skill – or having a singular goal – we too, can become great at something. The obstacle: time. We can’t choose a direction in life, work hard, then become successful. It has to be an obsession. We have to put our one goal at the forefront of our minds. Nothing else exists but our obsession. And the time we put into developing our skill and CREATING our talent, is hefty,
This article isn’t a motivational article. It isn’t one that gives the “average guy” hope. This isn’t an opinion piece, but one grounded in fact.
The goal of this article is to rid us of our greatest excuse: a lack of talent. If you want something, the only way to get it is with hours upon hours of practice and hard work. An obsessive, relentless pursuit of excellence is the recipe for success. This is precisely why so few create greatness in any field. We change our focuses in life. We quit after failing. We lose motivation. The passion we have for our dream is lost. Our fire dies.
If you knew that you could master something if you put 10,000 hours of practice, or 1,000 hours a year for 10 years, would you?
Great accomplishments aren’t for the feint of heart. To succeed and succeed BIG, you need to be willing to risk, and risk big.
Morning view looking across at my neighborhood in beautiful Vancouver, BC.
My morning routine has changed over the past couple of weeks. Not my nutritional and physical routine, which has remained in tact (I’m still doing the same physical routine as I am in the Morning Routine article); rather, my morning reading, goal-setting, and ‘motivation’ routine.
Every morning I wake up and go through my usual exercises, my testosterone boosting routine, cold shower, and reading. The change occurs after I’ve finished all of this, when I now proceed to take a look at my big, audacious goal in a different light (it’s insanely big and audacious). Where I used to have it in mind at the beginning of my day, I now read it aloud as if it were already accomplished. As if it already existed and it now awaits me to come and accept it. IT waits for me, not I for IT.
I then read a statement of facts – not wishes or goals – of what I’m doing and going to do in order to make this audacious goal a reality. There’s no IF in my goal-setting anymore. It isn’t even really goal-setting but rather me reading about my future self and the position I will be in.
Sounds a bit hokey doesn’t it?
I thought so as well… at first. But then I looked at goal-setting as we usually treat it: as a wish and a fairytale. We usually look at a goal as something we wish to attain, but not as something we’re going to accomplish. It’s a hope not a foregone conclusion.
My new morning routine is a promise. As serious as death and as important as life. Once I made this promise to myself, there was no turning back. No fail safe or safety net to catch me as I descend from failure. Remember again, failure isn’t even a possibility. All bridges back to safety are burned. There’s only one option and only one way to go: forward.
You need to burn bridges if you’re going to succeed.
The bridges I’m talking about aren’t relationships we need to let go of in order to succeed, although many of us have them. These bridges are the safety net’s we all have in case we fail. They’re the back-up plan. The ‘plan B’ we map out in case our business venture is a complete failure. In case the road we’ve embarked on is tougher than we originally thought. Read the rest of this entry »