Posted: October 15th, 2013 |
Author: Chad Howse |
Filed under: Be Legendary
Tags: conquer fear, face fears, face your fears, Fear, how to conquer fear, how to look fear in the face, michael jordan failure, michael jordan fear, michael jordan fear failure, remove fear, stop fear |
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What was once a basketball court, a boxing gym, or an ice rink, is now the office and the coffee shop. As I sit here writing this article, not yet aware of where it will lead me, I’m struck with a familiar feeling. It’s quiet. There’s no sound except for some background music turned to low, and the echo of my fingers pounding the keys as if they’d done me wrong.
It’s the same feeling I got as I shot jumpers for hours after practice in high school and college. The keyboard, today, echoes as the ball did, then. Alone I sit, just as I once stood, dripping in sweat, fingers numb, but always able to perform one more dribble, to release one more shot.
The feeling is peace. Nothing else exists but this moment. My mind doesn’t wander, my thoughts stay in the present, on the task, on my craft. With darkness comes quiet, and with quiet comes purpose.
It brings perspective, sure, but more-so a clarity of purpose and vision. I’m here, working, when others have left.
I felt this same clarity in the ring, shadowboxing, my trainer threatening to turn off the lights in an effort to make me leave. I felt this feeling on the ice, as the zamboni driver threatened to run me over if I didn’t get off the ice. But it was the basketball court that absorbed most of my sweat, far more tears, but not as much blood as the ring, of course.
We used to start practice late at night. After the junior varsity team hd finished, it was our turn, as the varsity team, to take the court. I think it was 7:30pm – 9pm. Living 45 minutes from my high school, that meant for a late night as it was, but I wanted more.
After everyone had gone home, I made a deal with the security guard, who was working until the wee hours anyway, to let me shoot for a couple hours after practice, clean up after myself, and leave the place better than it was when I entered. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted: June 29th, 2013 |
Author: Chad Howse |
Filed under: Be Legendary
Tags: Be Legendary, build a lasting legacy, Build A Legacy, create a legacy, Fear, Legacy, Legendary |
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How a man views fear will shape his life, his love, and his legacy. From a young age we’re taught to use fear as a gage. If something scares us, we are to stay away from it. If something is safe, we gravitate towards it. We’re taught that fear as a mechanism to keep us safe, to fear strangers, crossing the highway, big animals, new situations, and risk.
We’re taught to use fear to stay safe, unhurt, and alive, by our parents, who were taught to do so by their parents, who were taught to use fear by their parents, and so on, all the way back to the days when you always had to be on the lookout for predators, and your only defense was your mind, your spear, and your fear.
Fear has kept us alive. It’s prevented us from getting kidnapped, hit by a car, and lost at the supermarket. It has also kept us from living. How we view fear has prevented us from taking the risks that, deep down, we’d love to take. It has kept us small and insignificant. It’s kept us cowardly, not courageous. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted: June 23rd, 2012 |
Author: Chad Howse |
Filed under: Be Legendary, Manliness
Tags: 7 bad emotions, bad emotions, chad howse, emotional control, Fear, Fear of failure, how to be a success, how to become successful, how to control emotions, jealousy, Michael Jordan, Winston Churchill |
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Everything which man creates begins in the form of a thought impulse. Man can create nothing which he does not first conceive in thought. Through the aid of the imagination, thought impulses may be assembled into plans. The imagination, when under control, may be used for the creation of plans or purposes that lead to success in one’s chosen occupation. ~ Napoleon Hill
Read that over again.
Nothing in the history of man has come to fruition without first being a thought. It’s impossible. The thoughts that dominate our minds are indicative of what we’re going to accomplish, and where we’re going to end up in life.
If negative thoughts pervade our thinking and our notion of what’s possible, nothing we wish to accomplish will ever be realized because we don’t wholeheartedly believe it can be so.
When we set out to achieve a lofty goal, we can do it with two mind frames. One, with only positive emotions. The other, with a negative emotion, or emotions.
With positive emotions we see possibilities and are excited about them. This positivity and excitement makes us work harder and with more passion. We know our success is waiting for us. Our enthusiasm in contagious. People want to help us achieve what we’re working so obsessively to accomplish.
As a result, we get more work done in less time. Our work is of a higher quality. Which leads to more breaks, that some call luck, but history has shown us that luck is created, not received without any merit. We have more energy. We’re happier and more excited about life and about what is to come in life.
By combining these emotions with work ethic and persistence, we’re guaranteeing our success.
The negative emotions that creep into 99.9% of our minds, are disastrous. There’s a reason why men like Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, Michael Jordan, Muhammad Ali, Nelson Mandela, and Winston Churchill avoided this method some call ‘realistic thinking‘ like the plague.
Negative emotions, like the 7 most powerful one’s we’ll study today, crush hope. They bring us down. They make us depressed, give us an excuse to take a day off, cheat on a meal, or miss a workout. They allow us to be jealous of another’s success.
The negative emotions that pervade the majority of our minds are more responsible for our lack of success in our training, careers, and in life, than any other factor. They are why we quit. Why we don’t work hard enough.
The more I study the great men in history and the present. And the more time I spend with guys who are living successful lives, the more I see how our thoughts determine where we are in life and what we’re able to achieve. My friends who are very successful see life with no limitations. They’re happy, positive, hard working, and very persistent guys. At every opportunity they reach out to help another.
They aren’t greedy, selfish, fearful, angry, jealous or superstitious.
The unsuccessful are. The difference between each group isn’t talent, luck, or a head start in life. The difference exists in the thoughts that dominate their minds. Do you see why this is one of the more important articles you’re going to read on this site?
If you get anything from the following article, it’s the ability to recognize each emotion in yourself, and the wherewithal to change that thought process to one that will lead to your success, not keep you fat, weak and broke. Ideally this article will lead you to stop attributing the success of others to luck (as I have in the past). And stop waiting for luck, and instead creating your own.
Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. Read the rest of this entry »