Have you ever thought that maybe a great body just isn’t in your cards? That maybe you’re destined to be fat, out of shape, scrawny, or weak?
I’ve been there. But I had to come to grips with one very simple fact, a fact that we’ll delve into within the following article. This article will be eye-opening. It may even piss you off. But it will give you the power to create your ideal body. If, by number 8, you’re too pissed off to read, skip to number 21. Read that, then go back through the list.
Wondering Why You Don’t Have a Great Body?
1. You don’t think you deserve it.
Of all the reasons that are to come, this is both the most absurd, and understandable. I understand this line of thinking. I’ve had this line of thinking. When you start a business, especially a blog or a platform where you’re stating your opinion as fact, like I am here, there’s a part of you that questions if you’re worthy.
When I first started writing I wondered, Are people really going to listen to me? Will they value my opinion? And who the hell am I tell to older guys what it means to be a man?!
I get it.
You have this image of an ideal body that is so far off what you have right now, that you don’t think you’re worthy of it. You don’t think that, with the body you were born into, you’re deserving of the body you want, but only the body you have.
You are deserving of it, the simple fact is that you haven’t taken the actions that will get you the body you want.
There’s a bit of a catch 22 here. Everyone is deserving of happiness and of a great life. The simple act of being born gives you the right to create happiness, greatness, and an epically sexy body. But you still have to create it.
Understand that you’re deserving of said right to create it before we get into the remainder of the reasons why you don’t have the body you want. They may hurt your feelings. But they may also apply to you – if not all of them, at least some of them will. But some of them apply to me as well, so you’re not alone here.
2. You don’t take action.
You have a goal, a dream, but it will always remain as a goal and a dream because you’re not taking consistent action towards the achievement of said goal. If you don’t take action, you won’t get the body, nay, you can’t get the body.
Remedy: Start today. Right now. Start a program, start working out, start by making the next meal that you eat aid you in your quest.
3. You blame your genetics.
Let’s say you have the shittiest genetics on the planet, you can still improve. And that’s all that you’re after, for now, is improvement. Forget about this ideal that you see on TV. We’re focus on you. Forget about your genetics, they aren’t the reason why your body sucks. Your lack of effort and discipline is to blame. You are to blame.
Remedy: Stop playing the victim and start taking action. Rid this idea from your mind that building your ideal body isn’t possible. It is. ‘Nuff said. Let’s move on…
4. You compare yourself to other people.
This is an incredibly unhealthy and unproductive way of moving through life. It’s also why I stopped following people in Instagram (but follow me, I give tips on my Instagram). I’d look at Billy Bob with his Bugatti and, for a second, I’d be inspired, but then I’d look at my ride (a car that I’m actually very happy with), and I’d want an upgrade. But I don’t really want an upgrade, which is why it’s so useless to compare yourself to others.
And who knows what kind of life Billy Bob is living! Is he happy? Hopefully, but who knows?!
You look at the guy on the cover of the magazine and you want his body. But dude, you don’t know the dieting he did to get it, the drugs he’s taking, how much discipline he has to maintain up to the photo shoot (after which he probably let’s it slide).
You’re you. So be you. Improve daily, work hard, but don’t you ever compare yourself to others. Social media has allowed our generation to create a facade. It’s not the actual life we’re living, but the life we want people to think we’re living. Don’t get sucked into that world. Be real. And only control what’s in your life.
Remedy: Take progress pics every month. Compare yourself to where you were at last month. Not where Billy Bob is today. If you’re improving, that’s all you can ask for. And if you are, I applaud you. Well done.
5. You’re a quitter.
You start something only to quit it a month later. If you’re a quitter, you need to stop being one. You’re not going to get anything you want in life, and that includes happiness and the ability to be self-reliant – a quality that every man deserves the right to create in his life.
Remedy: Start something today, and focus only on today. Don’t quit for one day. Then focus on tomorrow, tomorrow.
6. You’re afraid to try something new.
If you’re working hard and staying disciplined, but still not getting the results you want, you have to shift what you’re doing. Try something new that will elicit a different response from your body.
Remedy: Try a new diet, or a new program (like this one). But try something new and stick to it until it’s finished. Sometimes the road to success isn’t a straight line (I’m pretty sure it never is). You need to shift, evolve, and change your tactics. Don’t get stuck in the hamster wheel. Evolve.
7. You don’t work hard.
If you don’t work hard you can’t expect anything of value in life, let alone a body that literally requires you to work hard to improve, building muscle, and burning fat.
Remedy: Try it once, working hard that is. Go to the gym today, set your stopwatch for 20 minutes, and bust your ass for the full 20. You’ll see that it ain’t that hard, and even though you’re going to feel some pain, it’s a good kind of pain.
8. You lack discipline.
Simple, without discipline you can’t reach your goal.
Remedy: Set expectations of yourself. Today I expect myself to have only one cheat meal, for example. Discipline is a practiced habit. You need to make it a part of your life, but you also need to understand its value. To accomplish anything of value, you need discipline. You can’t argue this (I won’t allow it!). Practice it everyday to become good at it. And again, take it one day at a time. That’s all you need to focus on.
9. You don’t focus your goals.
Your goals are too broad. Do you want muscle, or fat loss? Keep your goals focused, short term, and break them down into action steps.
Remedy: I’ll do X to get Z. I’ll eat this amount of calories everyday to accomplish this goal, and I’ll keep this goal until I reach X amount of pounds. Focus your goals, and keep them focused until they’re accomplished. Don’t waver.
10. You don’t want to invest in yourself.
You won’t spend $47 on an awesome program, yet you’ll buy a $100 pair of jeans. It makes no sense! You don’t even have the body you want to fit into those jeans. Why not spend a little money in yourself? Doesn’t it make more sense to invest in the things that will bring you long term happiness, not the things that will give you happiness that lasts only for a few hours?
This point boggles my mind.
I get it. We want what’s immediate. And we’re naturally skeptical that we’re being taken advantage of by people marketing anything. But it still isn’t very logical.
Remedy: Invest in yourself before you buy things for yourself. Investing in yourself will give you a happy life. Buy things will give you a happy hour. Buy a program that has been shown to help people like you get the results you want (if you don’t know which one to be, email me and I’ll tell you). Buy healthier foods. Buy books to learn more about how the body works. Stop spending money on stupid quick fixes, and instead invest in your long term future.
11. You can’t accept that eating fat doesn’t make you fat.
I will continue to try to undo the years of damage that the fitness industry, and your government, has created. Natural fats don’t make you fat. They do the opposite. Saturated, monounsaturated, and polyunsaturated fats are GREAT for you! They provide you with the building block of testosterone (cholesterol), and don’t contribute to your waistline.
Remedy: Read this article: how to naturally enhance testosterone levels in men. And start eating more healthy fats. Don’t pair them with carbs (veggies not included), and consume the majority of your carbs after your workout, but get more fats in your diet.
12. You complain too much.
Read the poem on the right. That’s both the eye-opening problem for your lack of success, and the remedy.
13. You don’t really want one.
There’s a misconception that plagues our society. What we want is NOT what we desire, it’s what we do most.
If you eat healthy, work hard, and maintain disciplined, then yes, you want a great body. But if you’re lazy, you eat junk food, and you rarely workout, then no, that’s not what you want. What you want is to be weak and fat.
You like your laziness better than you’d like to have a great body.
Remedy: Take a look in the mirror. Man up. If you want a great body, then let your actions reflect that desire. It’s under your control what you do. So start doing those things that reflect your true desire.
14. You’re a follower of fads.
This goes along with quick fixes. You’d rather spend a lot of money to get a quick, rarely lasting result, then save your money, work hard, and have a lasting results.
Stop paying attention to fads. They’re meant to get your money, but not to have a lasting effect. That’s the nature of a fad. For them to work they can’t work. If they did work, then you’d only buy one thing, because you’d have the body you want.
Remedy: Invest in yourself, but do it wisely. Don’t buy into fads. If something promises quick results with minimal work or discipline, it’s a fad. Stay away from it.
15. You’re not consistent.
Success is a habit, not a singular act. Stop acting like it is. So what? To get something you have to work for it. Man up! Work for it. Stop complaining about hard work and instead see the value in it.
Not only will consistent effort get you what you want in life, it will prepare you for the tough times in life what will surely come. Consistent hard work toughens you. It makes you grittier, stronger, and more resistant to failures that may be in your future.
Remedy: Stop focusing on the long haul. That’s where most people falter. Again, take monthly progress pics to see how you’ve improved, and focus on only today. Tomorrow is of no consequence, neither is yesterday.
16. You’re waiting for motivation.
Motivation is a myth. Sure, we all get it in spades, but it’s those who create it that build a lasting Legacy. Motivation is the result of habit. Start working everyday towards your goal and you’ll find that as you progress and see your success, you’ll become more passionate and motivated about what you’re doing.
Remedy: Work hard everyday. Create your own motivation by building upon your successes and using your failures to inspire and propel you further on down the road.
17. You have terrible habits.
This is a no brainer. If you don’t have the body you want, your habits are to be to blamed – i.e. you are to be blamed.
Remedy: Write a list of the habits you have that contribute to your oversized belly, or your lack of lean muscle mass. Then write the opposing habit, a habit that will get you the body you want. Now, create a checklist. Everyday, check off which habit you did. Start getting more habits in the right column, and less in the bad one.
18. Your girlfriend sucks.
Not placing blame on them, it’s still your fault that you chose this girl (or for you ladies, this boy, or friend, or someone you hang out with a lot), but if the person you spend the most time with doesn’t help you, and instead hinders you, drop her. If she doesn’t recognize that this is something you want, and keeps eating crap around you, getting you to hang out when you should be working out, why are you with her (or him)?
Remedy: Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not bring you down. Think of it like this: you are the culmination of the 6 people you hang out with most. Choose your relationships wisely. Don’t always let the little head think for the big head. The big head has to have its say.
19. Your parents want to stay fat.
Your parents may not want to make the dietary changes that you want to make, but if they love you, and if they want you to live a long, healthy, successful life, get them to make them FOR YOU!
I’m being incredibly harsh, sure, but this is a life and death matter. And sometimes they have their own fears and deeper issues that are preventing them from making healthy lifestyle choices. But they LOVE YOU enough to do anything, trust me. If you want to make a change, and you want them to make a change, call them out.
Remedy: Tell them how being fat or weak is effecting your ability to live a great life, and tell them how much you need their help. You can’t drop your parents, but you can inspire and motivate them to make the changes they need to make. Do this for one another. We tend to be able to maintain greater focus for those we love, more-so than for ourselves. So team up and win this battle together.
20. You’re weak (emotionally and spiritually and mentally).
Physical strength is forged through pain. As is emotional, mental, and strength of the spirit. Add discipline to your life. Live the strenuous life. Learn to love hard work like you’re going to need to love pain in the gym. This is how you build toughness.
Get in the habit of doing stuff that you don’t want to do if it’s going to bring you closer to your goals. The more you do it, the easier it gets, because the tougher you’re getting.
Remedy: Like I said above, start loving hard work and taking the hard road. The path of ease will get you nowhere but broke and fat and unhappy. I sound like I’m taking the fun out of life, but you’re going to have so much more fun if you’re in the body you want to be in, with the life you want to be living. Accomplishment makes us happy, so does improvement. And the strenuous life is the road to both.
21. You like being a victim.
Alas, there are those who secretly like being the victim, this may be you. You like being fat because you like being lazy. You like being weak because you’re afraid of what it takes to be strong.
Deep down I know you want to change, now all it takes is the courage to make that change.
Remedy: Take the PowerHowse Challenge. It’s the program that helped me build my ideal body, but it’s also a movement. We have a MASSIVE community of guys who are after the same things you’re after, with the same obstacles, fears, and weaknesses that you have. And ladies, you’re welcome as well (there are ladies who are KILLING IT on this awesome system).
Again, this list wasn’t meant to attack, but to liberate. YOU have the power to create the change you want in life. Take that power. Grab it in your hands, through focused action, and never let it go. You can build whatever body you want. Whether you do or don’t is completely on your shoulders. I’ll help you navigate, but you still have to set the sales.